My third area of concern is the speaker's portrayal of wives as both fickle and emotionally fragile. He joked that they will ask their husbands for advice about petty things like which socks to wear and then do the exact opposite. Blech! Even though it was meant to be funny, that was still a demeaning comment and he did nothing to offset that attitude. Then, according to him, 100% of home school moms feel like they are failing at what they do. He was trying to encourage moms that they are just what God designed, that each mom is just perfect for her own children. I appreciate his attempts to bolster our confidence and trust God's plan for our families. However, in his manner and words, he seemed to be implying that because our personalities are the way they are, there is not much need to change our style of motherhood in response to how things are going in our families. He thinks we just need to be pumped up with generic praise. Yet very often, we do cause our children to stumble by not being flexible, not breaking out of ourselves and our way of doing things. We all need to grow -- and to grow up! As a mom, I can't just excuse my shortcomings because, "That's just the way I am, so get over it!"